Here’s an article in Salon that shows how the gender war is progressing. It is a study in very selective outrage. A female professor catches a snatch of a phone conversation when she is passing a student that she recognizes from class and is flabbergasted at his dismissal of stupid women as “bitches” and “cunts”. Welcome to the world you and the Sisterhood made, lady
“Twenty feet, 10 feet. He is talking at top cellphone volume, but my mind is on Clive Owen, so I register sound but not words. At 5 feet from each other, our eyes meet and in the second I offer a big pleasant smile (I adore my students, isn’t the world lovely?) I hear what he is saying, has been saying, is continuing to say:
“Those fucking girls are too stupid to be bitches. They’re too fucking stupid to be cunts.”
How awful that must have been. Now imagine yourself as an eight-year old boy hearing basically the same thing about boys – they’re trouble, they mature slowly, they’re violent, the girls are just smarter and more disciplined, boys are stupid, throw rocks at them – from a female teacher, an adult in charge of you and with control over you; and then next year another, and then another… imagine hearing this kind of thing from your female peers year after year, with the full sanction of those overwhelmingly female teachers.
“Because any protective stature or authority I think I might possess due to my age or professorial rank are still trumped by the fact that I am female.”
Cry me a river. Gender is exactly why little boys get this same treatment from adult women. Is what that kid so nonchalantly said disturbing? Guess what – misogynists are made, not born, and in the case of this generation of young men, who from cradle to graduation have grown up under the authority of female teachers, female principals and in some cases female peers, the hand that rocks the cradle really does rule the world and really is responsible for this state of affairs.
She starts to analyze her reaction:
“For god’s sake: “Appropriate?” I actually think that way, now? What’s the big deal? His words were not directed at me. He didn’t spit at me. He didn’t assault me, or mug me, grab the weathered-leather bookbag from my professorial shoulder, abscond with my lecture notes and wallet. He didn’t throw acid. A few years ago, a student was shot dead on the street three blocks from where this kid and I passed each other. So, why am I upset? “Because finally, I realize: What I felt in that brief encounter with the young guy was not offense, or discomfort or puzzlement, or the comfortable detachment of sociological or linguistic analysis. It wasn’t even that I felt disturbed. What I felt in that moment was fear. I felt vulnerable.”
I agree with the writer that the student’s comments were unacceptable. I disagree both with her facile and shallow and clueless femsplaining about the student’s thinking behind them. I really disagree with her reverting to the tradcon pose of female fearfulness. Toxic femininity harms women far more than any misogyny can.
Here she is at her most unaware:
So, this is normal, now, something to be expected, accepted, shrugged off? Maybe I really am an uncool professor, because that is crazy. I still understand the language of dehumanizing hatred, no matter how indifferent the tone.
Completely unaware of the language of dehumanizing hatred aimed at boys and men in elementary and high school and yes, college settings. But that’s different of course, because….hypoagency or something, it’s less hurtful when it comes from a dainty, helpless, harmless female. More toxic femininity.
I wonder how this woman would feel if she were bombarded with messages about how she was a presumptive rapist or a presumptive pedophile? I may start caring about her pathetic fears when they start lynching and jailing women based on these attitudes she is whining about.
Oh, and did anyone catch the stink of hypoagency in all of this? A male student says something and the female professor is completely at his mercy. Does it get any more tradcon ?
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