A redditor posted a self-reddit in which he said that dating American women made him wonder if he would be better off gay. I think he meant more than just the joy of finally getting a competent blow job. He may have meant not being subject to date-rape accusations, or at least of having a fighting chance at defending himself, or less chance of being subjected to Intimate Partner Violence. Dunno; he didn’t elaborate.
I offered this:
You don’t have to be gay to get the benefits, and as others point out, there are big disadvantages to actually being gay – psycho boyfrends are as real as psycho girlfriends after all. And then there is all the institutionalized homphobia that is waiting everywhere. So just walk the walk – in borrowed boots – and you’ll see it pay off.
And incidentally you’ll be helping us who really are gay. Every straight man who is not afraid of being mistaken for gay is a nail in the coffin of homphobia.
•Lady fail – when you get turned down and it’s obviously just a power play “I can get you all horny and then cut you off” – you suddenly get a call from “Jason” and you just can’t wait to get over to his place.
•Shaming tactics – “That’s why you never get laid!!!” – you answer “Get laid? Honey, I’ve probably had your father.” Ponder a bit… “…and your mother too, for all I know.”
•The occasional snippy comment about her clothes or whatever when she starts acting like her “business” is God’s gift to men.
But as others have also pointed out, if it gets to this point, it’s time to DTMFA and find one of the numerous, numerous good women out there. Believe me, they are watching and wondering why you put up with that shit.
- The Woman Card - May 2, 2016
- Frat boy bachelorettes and the invasion of gay bars - April 15, 2016
- “Not my kid….” - February 22, 2016