From “Assholes Come in Two Flavors”
Gwallan describes how male victims of sexual assault in remote areas of Australia have to drive thousands of kilometers and pay for treatment while paying for women’s treatement:
Australia’s a big place. Outside the south east there’s not much. Male victims in those places often have no choice but to travel thousands of kilometres and pay thousands of dollars for private treatment. Meanwhile their taxes are often funding free services in their own neighbourhoods but which reject them on the basis of their sex.
And then there’s this from Gentleman_Thief on reddit regarding women reducing him down to a performance. And I thought only bros did stuff like that!
The last woman I was with, I couldn’t ‘perform’ (many personal reasons but this isn’t the place), and she started crying then later ridiculing me. She brought it up /with her friends/ and they all had the same hivemind about ‘if a man can’t get it up and use it well, he’s not a man’.
I held my tongue.
A facepalm from reddit’s LadyMRA. If you’re ostensibly part of the Men’s Rights movement, doesn’t it behove you to be passingly familiar with the fact that men face gender-based violence too(potentially exclusively until someone shows me evidence otherwise):
It helps when MRAs don’t try to play oppression olympics and downplay the problems women face. Vice versa. We’re all adults here, surely we can admit that both sides face problems (to varying degrees). Most men aren’t going to experience the terror of dealing with sexual violence or gender based violence, but that doesn’t mean guys don’t face harmful expecations, etc.
I wasn’t aware that women walk the streets in fear of gangs of men mutilating their genitals? (Incidentally there are now reports out of Africa of men being forcibly circumcised by gangs.)
Or are you implying something about rape? If we’re talking about rape, more (or at the very least as many) men are raped in prison than women in the community. Then there’s the rape of adolescent boys in juvenile facilities by female staff. Then there’s the community rape of men(mostly by women) that was, in 2011, nearly equivalent in extent to the community rape of women by men.
And then there’s the rape of men in the Congo. And also the fact that the majority of gendercides around the world target men.
And finally there’s circumcision. Which is still effectively legal to do to men. All around the world.
All of these issues are forms of gendered violence and/or sexual assault that men face.
Most of them are effectively legal to do to men because they are ignored by the government or NGOs.
And the branding of rape victims as “women” or “majority women” by feminists continues apace:
But surely Fast Eddie must be aware that TV Tropes isn’t just a repository of fan clichés and geek trivia. The categorization of tropes that hurt, marginalize, and perpetuate victims of rape and rape culture—particularly women—is incredibly important in a cultural moment where debate about sexist tropes is greater than it ever has been.
A final question. To those of the feminist persuasion who happen upon this post. How should I be reacting to the marginalization of male victims by your “rape culture” discourse?
Everybody together now! What-if-the-genders-were-reversed?
Anyway, here’s a link to thursday night’s A Voice For Men radio show on Rape Culture.
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