Yes, I know very well NOW Michigan is not all feminists, yes I know as many feminists support equal parenting as oppose it – although not as strongly as they might if they really cared about it – but as long as NOW calls itself feminist, it is feminist and its members are feminists. That’s what you get for “feminism is not a monolith.”
And this business of opposing equal parenting, and of casting fathers’ claims to equality as somehow detrimental to children is deeply sexist, bigoted and dishonest.
So NOW Michigan has come out in opposition to a bill that would allow fathers to make paternity claims whether or not the mother identifies them as the father – in other words, to establish their parental rights in law as independent of the mother’s whim.
“The putative father’s rights bills (HB 4067, SB 256, SB 557, 558, 559, 560) have passed the Senate and House Judiciary Committee. We testified against the bills as they take away a protective mother’s rights. The bills are supported by the Family Law Section of the State Bar, the DHS Office of Child Support, the probate judges, and of course the father’s rights groups. Now that there is DNA testing, biological fathers can be identified should they wish to come forward and make a claim. The logic of allowing putative fathers to gain access to and some control over their progeny seems to hit sympathetic chords with legislators in the silence of the affected women and children.”
The silence of the affected children? And who decides that this is silence and what these children would say if they could? The very mothers interfering with the childhood and their access to their fathers, and the advocates of these mothers? And fathers coming forward and atemting to assert “some control over their progeny”, some degree of the control that mothers demand and are guaranteed under Michigan – “Oh the misogyny! Fetch the smelling salts! Equality? Oppressive!!”
This opposition to equal parenting is not confined to Michigan; on the national level NOW has form on opposing equal parenting. This is part of NOW’s wider anti-child and anti-father agenda – they have a pattern of outright distortions and lies about Parental Alienation Syndrome that tries to erase an especially destructive form of child abuse in the service of a very short-sighted, and actually anti-woman, women’s advocacy.
Has it never occurred to these organizations how misogynist this works to be, along with the misandry this entails? The legal regime as it currently stands leads to a social expectation on women that they get custody of children in a divorce unless they are so egregiously unfit that the court in desperation gives custody to the father. Are they unaware how oppressive and restrictive this is to women? But maybe that’s the plan, to have yet another issue to advocate about.
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