Vicitmhood and the benefits – “A Queen For A Day”

Our culture, and not just ours, fetishizes victimhood. Victimhood is the ultimate moral weapon, and weaponized victimhood has been the weapon of choice in a lot of really necessary and good social reform movements. But like nukes, it should not fall into the wrong hands. The whole of modern feminism has for the past 30 years at least been predicated on a framework of victimology and all its tropes – patriarchy theory, rape culture, gendered pay gap, the war on women, the form rhetoric around women’s reproductive rights takes – all rest on victimology rather than a simple insistence on equal rights and empowerment. It is a very sad, very retrograde development, because it is nothing but a reversion to traditionalist gender assumptions.

Is this the best they can do?

Gentlemen's Quarterly (GQ) finally got around to publishing an article on the Men's Conference A Voice for Men organized and hosted last year. Better late than never, I guess, although you would expect a men's magazine to be a little more active when it comes to men's issues. The writer, Jeff Sharlet, identifies himself as the husband of a Women's Studies professor, so we can probably infer pretty accurately what his sexual politics are. And that's what makes this article interesting - for a hit piece it is surprisingly feeble. He engages in a list of desperate gimmicks to make his point and even then he can't find much to actually criticize, so he resorts to innuendo and mischaracterization.

The “fragile male ego”, a sly inversion

I ran across a post in the men’s rights subreddit that is emblematic of a very common sly inversion: the assertion that women have to coddle men’s fragile egos. This was by way of saying how very weary this writer was of having to explain all this over and over again to bone-stupid men (the […]

Rape apology—A taxonomy

Feminist rape apology when it comes to male victims of rape, and especially victims of female perpetrators, comes in various forms. And by the way, feminists are not at all alone in employing these forms when they make their rape apologist statements or lapse into their rape apologist silence in the face of rape apology […]

Snatching oppression from the jaws of privilege, a sly inversion

There is a very common sly inversion that interprets every benefit that society confers on women as some form or other of oppression. I think what drives it is a gender script that casts women as fragile victims so that people who subscribe to that meme think that failing to identify this victimhood somehow defeminizes a woman.

Femininities—Toxic femininity

Toxic femininity is not a personal trait of individuals. It is an aspect of a gender role, and since gender roles are a matrix of customs, expectations, and policing, they are social rather than individual. That is what it means to say gender is constructed, if always on a pretty fixed base of biological sex for the huge majority of us, and this is where the construction takes place. (Gender identities are different; they inhere in individuals.)