Long-time commenter gwallan posted this list of the reactions he got when he tried to tell about his rape as a child:
I’ve been fairly outspoken about female perpetration since the mid nineties. I wrote the following about two years ago summarising the sorts of responses I’ve experienced personally. It’s nowhere near exhaustive but does give one an idea. Sometimes I wonder why I persisted.
Things I’ve been told or experienced when being overheard admitting to having been repeatedly molested by a woman as a seven and eight year old child…
Liar.
You must have wanted it.
Impossible.
You’re lucky.
You’re privileged by it.
Women never do that sort of thing.
It’s harmless.
Laughter.
I’ve been assaulted.
I’ve been threatened.
I’ve been called a poofter, a fag, gay, a misogynist.
I’ve been told it’s hateful to women.
I’ve had feminists, who have also done all of the above, patiently explain how my male privilege prevented my aunt from NOT doing what she did. Some of them implied that I must have seduced her.
It was legal at the time BECAUSE it was done by a woman.
Now some of this shit he faced as a male rape victim was not inflicted by feminists. As we insist on reminding everyone, feminist =/= woman, just as woman =/= feminist.
But all of it was inflicted either by women or their man-hating male toadies. And by male toadies, I mean gynophiles, men who value women over men. The Anglosphere is full of them; it is a cultural norm.
Feminists have to admit to a deplorable record on the subject of male rape victims, as bad as any evil patriarchal knuckle-dragger. To be sure some are full-throated in their support of male rape victims, but some hedge and dodge even as they mealy-mouth that rape is wrong, that victim-blaming is wrong, all rape is bad …(except not all equally bad, because, you know, power differentials…)
On the other hand there have always been feminists who pushed back against this attitude, which quite frankly is rape apologist. I recall a thread on Feministe that went on for ever and got very heated on this point, with the egalitarians carrying the thread. Sadly, they are usually in a minority, and sadly they seem not to be in the positions of decision-making power, but they exist. More please.
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