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Honey Badger Radio: Men and boys, the acceptable victims of violence

Summary

In April of this year, Boko Haram kidnapped 200 girls.

But that’s not the first time Boko Haram struck. For the past 8 months they’ve been waging a campaign of violence in Nigeria with their main target being boys and young men pursuing a western education.

But they didn’t kidnap those men and boys, they killed them. Sometimes burning them alive or slitting their throats.

But we, in the west, didn’t care until girls were kidnapped.

Join us tonight on Honey Badger Radio as we discuss “Men and Boys: The Acceptable Victims of Violence.”

News

Deadbeat dad ordered to not procreate

An Ohio man has been ordered not to procreate. Asim Taylor has been asked to not have anymore children until he can pay the $100,000 dollars he has accumulated in child support payments. The father of four could be thrown in jail if he impregnates another woman within the next five years he’s on probation.

The judges had this to say:

“Where, as here, the defendant has demonstrated a long-term refusal to support multiple children by multiple women notwithstanding his ability to work and contribute something for their care, an anti-procreation condition is reasonably related to future criminality.”

He plans to appeal on the grounds that he has a constitutional right to procreate.

http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/05/15/newser-deadbeat-dad-no-more-kids/9115177/
CAFE becomes a registered charity

The Canadian Association for Equality has become the first registered charity in Canada with a mandate to bring awareness to the issues facing boys, men and fathers.

For those of you who aren’t familiar with CAFE, they are the group that has been hosting men’s issues seminars at Canadian Universities in Ontario, with plans to extend the seminars across Canada.

CAFE focuses on finding positive solutions for the issues facing men but does not shy away from questioning the current gender orthodoxy holding sway in academia and government.

Congrats to CAFE, this represents a big step forward for recognition of the legitimacy of the problems facing boys and men.

http://equalitycanada.com/media-advisory-government-grants-charity-status-to-first-mens-issues-group/
Rent A Gent

The concept of renting companionship is not a new one. Japan is filled to the brim with maid cafes and clubs catered to this booming industry. So it is no surprise that this is taking hold in the US.

For 200 dollars an hour a woman can rent a boyfriend. They come from a variety of different professions and must have both charm and talent to pass the rigorous application process,

When asked whether this was male objectification, the founder had this to say:

“it’s the modern world and we have lots of different options.”

One has to wonder what this might be saying about society. Are we finding the pursuit of companionship to be too troublesome to be worth it? With Japan’s birthrate rapidly declining, one must wonder what this will mean for us and the future.

http://www.businessinsider.in/Women-Are-Using-Rent-A-Gent-To-Hire-Men-To-Do-Chores-And-Go-On-Dates/articleshow/35440389.cms

Rent a boyfriend in Japan women hire men to cuddle:
http://www.odditycentral.com/news/japanese-rent-a-boyfriend-service-caters-to-lonely-women-in-need-of-cuddling.html

Show segments

Secret waiting lists in VA Hospitals

In recent weeks a scandal broke that would shock the nation. Many of us knew the obstacles that veterans faced when seeking healthcare, but few knew just how deep the problem went.

Amidst the usual bureaucracy of several VA hospitals, were hidden waiting lists. These lists forced veterans to wait weeks or months before receiving treatment, while they falsified records.

As a result, needless deaths have taken place. Even now there are people rushing to destroy incriminating records, making it near impossible to see just how far this corruption goes.

The most stunning revelation of all, is the anonymous doctor that brought this to our attention. There is no telling how long this might have gone unchecked if they had remained silent.

As many as eight hospitals are facing allegations of hidden delays that proved to be harmful and even deadly.

Far too often we hear stories of the way in which the government treats veterans. We lay back and accept them as collateral damage for the greater good.

What this tells us is that the government has no problems discarding people when they see fit. Especially when they are men. They break men physically and mentally, telling them that it’s in service of their country.

Only for them to return to a country that views them as pawns for political ends. They live and die for their country. The question is, when will their country be willing to return the favor?

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/breaking/chi-federal-auditors-visit-hines-va-amid-reports-of-secret-waiting-lists-20140514,0,5152145.story

http://foxnewsinsider.com/2014/05/02/phoenix-va-medical-director-put-leave-amid-secret-waiting-list-allegations

http://www.newsmax.com/Newsfront/Eric-Holder-veterans-hospitals/2014/05/14/id/571263/

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/24patv/pets_instead_of_pills_support_service_dogs_for/

Boko Haram

Looking at the current coverage of the Boko Haram crisis, you’d never know that male students had been mercilessly slaughtered. In fact if you were to ask the average American what they knew, they’d mention the part about girls being kidnapped.

In a recent article from the New York Times, they discuss how the kidnapping of the 250 girls is merely a fear of female power. They fail to point out that they killed the boys in those same schools. In reality, this is about gaining attention. Killing men and boys is a mere blip on the radar. A mass kidnapping of girls gets worldwide coverage.

Their goal is not to eradicate female power. It is to put a stopper in western ideals and education. But looking at media coverage and you’d think that this was merely an exercise in abusing and subjugating women.

While it is important for girls to receive an education, this is pandering of the worst kind. This story is meant to target social justice warriors who desperately need to hear that women are the biggest victims worldwide.

Yet those same people can’t be bothered to know about the male students who were murdered in these conflicts. It seems that female favoritism truly knows no bounds.

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/11/opinion/sunday/kristof-whats-so-scary-about-smart-girls.html?_r=1

JayZ and Solange Knowles

This past week an elevator security video surfaced of Solange Knowles attacking her brother in law Jay Z. The young woman could be seen picking a fight and then lashing out at the rapper before being held back by a bodyguard.

Jay Z could be seen carefully dodging her blows and kicks until the bodyguard could intervene.

You’d think that people would use this to discuss female on male violence. Instead they asked what Jay Z had said to make Beyonce’s sister so angry. Which is rather typical for the media and the general populace.

Because of course, if a woman is angry or violent, it’s somehow a man’s fault. Almost no one attributes the actions of violent women to poor decisions, even when it’s obvious.

Even if Jay Z had said something to make her mad, it is Solange’s responsibility to handle the situation like an adult. Instead this woman treated the situation like a school yard brawl and had to be pulled away kicking and screaming..

The family has since released a press statement on the incident:

“Jay and Solange each assume their share of responsibility for what has occurred. They both acknowledge their role in this private matter that has played out in the public. They both have apologized to each other and we have moved forward as a united family.”

Which is their way of dodging a bullet without saying much at all. It’s nice to know that even when a woman is the aggressor, the media will still find some way to blame the nearest person with a penis.

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/may/18/solange-jay-z-beyonce-fight-assault-domestic-violence-men-women?commentpage=1

http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/gossip/solange-knowles-posts-pic-beyonce-article-1.1793332

http://www.tmz.com/2014/05/15/jay-z-solange-beyonce-elevator-fight-video-statement/

Effacing the Male

There are consistently male victims of war. They are the hidden victims in nearly every massive conflict. Dr. Adam Jones casts light on this in his research paper on the war in Kosovo.

What he found was that the media focuses on women and children, even when the victims are predominately male.
Reading the coverage, you’d never know that the violence amounted to the willful killing of every male above the age of fifteen.

The media’s focus on women and children effectively erases male victims, but does one important thing. It draws attention. Which goes to show, that there could be literal heaps of dead men in the streets, and it would not garner the same attention as the mass raping of women,

Dead men is business as usual. Dead men don’t sell newspapers like dead women or increase ratings. We value the lives of men so little that the focus needs to be diverted to the more worthy victims.

When it comes to the media’s portrayal of victims, men have to prove themselves. Women and children just have to be there.

http://adamjones.freeservers.com/effacing.htm

Statutory Rape Isn’t the Same When it’s an Adult Woman On Boy

Barbara Ellen earns our nomination for misandrist of the month in her article about statutory rape. In the article she claims that statutory rape where a woman is the rapist is vastly different from cases where the rapist is a male.

“Do we seriously think that a female teacher sleeping with a male pupil is on a par with a male teacher sleeping with a girl pupil? I don’t. And neither, I’d wager, would most 15-year-old boys.”

It might be safe to say that the concept of sexual coersion, is lost on Barbara Ellen. She assumes that since teenage boys want sex, that the law should treat those cases differently.

“While a large proportion of teenage boys may not have the sense to make the best choices, they are “up for it,” none the less.”

Even if that was the case, it is the job of an adult to decline those kinds of offers. What Barbara Ellen means to say, is that is that this is somehow a lesser crime when a woman does it.

Already these women are holding boys to be more sexually responsible than girls of the same age. Isn’t it strange how the people that continue to complain about double standards are often the ones upholding them?

There seems to be no limit to the mental gymnastics that people will go through to protect women from accountability.

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2009/nov/29/barbara-ellen-madeleine-martin-comment

Oppression Olympics

So what happens when a male feminist that cares about men, speaks out against MRAs? He accidentally makes the some of the same arguments that we do.

Lucas Zucker’s article speaking against anti-feminists makes the claim that if MRAs cared about men, that we would try to actually get involved instead of complaining about feminism on the internet.

Yet he completely fails to understand that our goals are aligned with most of what he mentioned. Because unlike feminism we care about fathers, workers, victims of war, and even those in the prison system.

The place where he drops the ball is when he shifts the entire thing back to the feminist narrative. Because of course feminism is our friend and it’s working on these things.

It’s kind of hard to put a dent into these issues when everyone believes that women have a higher priority. It’s even harder when the average person understands MRAs so little that they can argue many of our points for us, and then call us the scum of the earth.

How Anti-Feminism is Killing Men

Huffpo’s misleading reporting on workplace death

In the Biased Reporting category, we have the Huffington Post over-emphasizing women in a story about workplace death statistics. Their presentation includes a graphic which shows an equal number of male and female images representing deaths in the workplace. In reality, according to the Bureau of Labor’s chart titled “Fatal work injuries and hours worked, by gender of worker, 2012” from the 2012 chart package available on their page, only 8% of all combined workplace deaths were females.

The Post story also repeated, without context, the talking point that Homicide is the number one cause of workplace death for women. Omitted from the talking point is any discussion about the reasons behind the statistic, which actually does not account for the majority of female workplace deaths, any comparison to male victims of on the job homicide, who actually outnumber female on the job deaths.

The story is yet another example of mainstream media substituting the act of regurgitating political talking points for journalism.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/05/16/occupational-fatalities-_n_5326252.html

http://www.feministcritics.org/blog/2014/05/17/more-workplace-gender-lies-from-huffpo-noh/

Rachel Edwards

Rachel Edwards

Rachel is a former host of Honey Badger Radio, a recurring member of the Tales from the Infrared crew. She wanders around the web researching feminist insanity, poking people with a large stick, and keeping everyone in the silly place. When she isn't doing any of those things she spends her time doing even more blogging, grooming her rather large fluffy cat, nerding out with her favorite people, and burying herself in various fandoms. Pinkie Pie is best Pony! (You spelled "Fluttershy" wrong. -- Zen)
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